Where Do i find a Group who specializes in gay bondage interested in that lifestyle and would like some Answer? I have alwys been facinated with this lifestyle but hard for me to find a willing participant . I think i am a Submissive but am willing to Switch. any help in my quest to find answers would be great. I do not think i am wierd just curious. |
Here is a good place to start:
domsubfriends.com/1home.shtml
Read the articles in the Library and Resources sections (no registration needed).
Here are some other sites you MUST read:
www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2008/06/…
www.infomiss.com/Content/safe_bon…
www.bondara.co.uk/sex-toy-guides/…
www.sadomechanix.dk/de-ti-bud-gb.…
Also, read up on BDSM and related topics on Wikipedia.
The keys to successful "kinky sex" are factual knowledge, completely honest communication between the partners, complete trust, and SAFETY. Read up A LOT and discuss at length before wandering into these waters, and maximum mutual fun will be assured.
You and your partner should read and re-read these articles until you have them learned by heart. BDSM is ONLY for people who know what they are doing. ESPECIALLY the bondage part, where stupid mistakes can result in serious injury or death.
As for mild things that do not present a safety risk, try tickle torture, foot service, spanking, name calling, "dog training", "feminization", writing on the body with a marker, humiliation shows like striptease, costume play, and role playing games like Boot Camp Sergeant. There are more things, of course, but they cannot be mentioned in this forum.
Be careful about experimenting with humiliation and dom/sub role playing. First of all, people with fetishes also tend to have taboos as well. Breaking a taboo can ruin the whole experience in an instant.
For example, I get immediately turned off if a dom calls me any names that refer to females or animals, such as dog, pig, hoe, the B word for female dog, etc. Feminization and dog training are naturally flat out of the question as far as I am concerned.
BDSM works best when you carefully, honestly and thoroughly discuss what you intend to do with your partner ahead of time. "Surprises" should happen only within a strictly delimited "safe zone". Knowing where the limits of that zone lie in your partners mind is crucial for providing him and yourself with maximum pleasure.
Hope this all helps.
Good luck! |
If Boy George prefers a cup of tea instead of sex why did he tie up and imprison that woofter in a gay bondage? Session
Best answer wins a fabulous 3 week self catering cave holiday for 3 in Pakistan (flights not included) and a crisp £4 note. |
| Probably because he was high on some designer drug..and we are supposed to feel sorry for that loser. I think he gives gay people a bad name. Now they have banned him from appearing on celebrity big brother and good too, not that I like that stupid programme, but he was supposed to make around two hundred thousand pounds for his appearance which no doubt would have been spent on more drugs and more beaten up rent boys....that man needs to get real and get a job. |
How to get started in gay bondage? I have a fantasy of being tied up by an older man then slowly stripped naked and molested but not sure who I can trust |
| You can not trust many people. Wait, find someone that you like and trust and let them know about your fantasy. It will mean alot more if you are with someone you trust and love. |
Why exactly is the gay community obsessed with highjacking the word "Marriage" wasn't bondage working out 4you? I'm completely cool with gay people being in legal unity. Even Polygamist Gay Unity. In fact I favor Gay Polygamy enmasse.
But why redefine marriage. Creative Gay People should be able to invent a Word. After All Shakespear invented over 8000 words. |
yes I agree
City Lights Publishing should have a competition to come up with a special new word,
winner gets parade, Soros grant, dictionary named after themselves |
Isn't being gay a choice just like choosing S and M or bondage? Does the man who has sex with horses and goats have a choice?
If a man who is sexually attracted to guyren is believed to have a choice whether to ACT on that or not, who not homosexuals?
Hey, just asking. |
There's a difference between sexual orientation and conduct.
You can choose to have sex with whoever you want to have sex with, but the the sex you're attracted to is never a choice. |
S & M,Leather,Bondage...british gay men are really into these? I´m brazilian and i assume latin american gay men ( at least people i know...) seem not too keen on going this kinky...i don´t know if it´s our beach oriented culture or if we actually lack a genuine gay community ourselves but what really seems to turn us all on is the regular,tanned, hot looking,butch acting beach hunk...a lot of gay guys over here play "dude",completely opposited to the Mister top leather thing...you simply can´t tell the gay from the straight hottie over here because we borrow our stereotypes from straight people,you know?Leather and Bondage really turn you on,or is it just an impression? |
| I'm sure some gay people are along with thousands more of straight people. Trust me when I say that gay people aren't the only folks that have freaky and kinky sex. I've been scared by a lot of things I've seen straight people do. I think it's mostly just an impression and an act put on by porn stars that gives people the wrong idea of what sex in general is at all. |
I've become a bondage fan but cannot do that with women does that make me gay? I had some bondage experience with an older 'master' does that make me weird and gay? |
Some people find it easier to be submissive to one gender than the other; males (or females) may have held more authority in their life. It's quite common for switches to feel more comfortable topping one gender and bottoming to the other.
If you have sexual feelings towards men, then you may be gay, but simply doing bondage with them doesn't make you gay. You don't have to be attracted to someone to let them tie you up! It depends on the exact nature of the relationship.
Being interested in bondage definetly doesn't make you weird! |
S & M,Leather,Bondage...north american gay men are really into these? I´m brazilian and i assume latin american gay men ( at least people i know...) seem not too keen on going this kinky...i don´t know if it´s our beach oriented culture or if we actually lack a genuine gay community ourselves but what really seems to turn us all on is the regular,tanned, hot looking,butch acting beach hunk...a lot of gay guys over here play "dude",completely opposited to the Mister top leather thing...you simply can´t tell the gay from the straight hottie over here because we borrow our stereotypes from straight people,you know?Leather and Bondage really turn you on,or is it just an impression? |
Some people occasionally experiment with many different things. If they are really, really in to them to the point that they don't enjoy anything else that's a fairly rare thing in any culture. Bottom line, if you don't like it and the guy really wants it, tell him so and if he keeps pressuring you for it, say goodbye and move on.
For what its worth,
Michael |